Hair is, well certainly can be, a sensitive subject in the African-American community. Can I touch it? Is that a weave? It’s tough. I definitely recall being young and struggling with managing my tresses. My mom’s hair is entirely different, she has perfect loose natural curls while my dad’s is true tight curls. I would spend hours in front of the mirror, arms up, struggling.
I started getting relaxers something like 15 years ago and never looked back. The easy maintenance won me over, but what was once long, thick healthy hair slowly got shorter and progressively more damaged. It definitely didn’t help that I was a major heat junky, too. I wouldn’t buy a flat-iron that didn’t go above 300 degrees, y’all. An addict!
Sometime in early adulthood I attempted some curls and the reaction from friends wasn’t pleasant. But it’s wasn’t so much of a peer pressure thing, it was the fact that my friends were hair care professionals so I took their opinions a bit farther than I should’ve and back to the relaxers I went.
These days, though, I just couldn’t justify it anymore. The relaxer I used was usually around $7 every month which is basically just a nappy hair tax, (read: bullshit) so I decided to go natural. My last relaxer was 2 months ago and I’m now able to see the beginnings a great new thing. I did lots of research and have many Youtube videos of information rattling around my brain. I picked up some products and even experimented with flat-twists.
So here’s to something new, natural and healthy. I’ll check in every couple months or so on the progress, but in the meantime leave me some products or tips or encouragement in the comments if you have em. I can use all the help I can get!